How to ask a grown woman out on a date: Inspired by the numerous social media posts I’ve seen over the last few weeks of men & women venting on the woes of dating.
- First impressions count
- So does your first date. It can make you or break you.
- Show up. Be present. Texting and answering phone calls while on a date is rude. There are some exceptions to the rule, but they are few and far between.
- Personal grooming matters. Remember to not only look good, but to also smell good. Dress for the occasion/venue.
- Don’t ask her if she is busy. Or when she is free.
- She is single, not dead. She is not sitting at home waiting for someone to ask her out. She has a life. She has friends, activities, social outings, etc. If you ask if she is busy, she more than likely will be busy.
- Be specific.
- Don’t ask: “Do you want to do something tonight?”
- Instead, ask: “I would like to take you to dinner/bowling/movie/rock climbing/etc. Friday around 7. Are you available then?”
- If she wants to see you, she will make herself available, or she will propose a different day/time that she is available.
- If you are intentional and specific, a grown woman will respect and appreciate that.
- Spontaneity has it’s time and place.
- Many men say that they are not planners and just like to do things on the spur of the moment. That can be exciting for a woman at first. If a woman wants to see you or be with you, she doesn’t mind moving some things in her schedule around to make that happen. But she won’t do this all the time.
- A woman with goals, ambition, a caring heart, and a vision, i.e. a Grown Woman, has things to do, people to see, and places to go. So, please, in the words of one of my dear friends, “Get on her calendar.” Give a woman something to look forward to.
- If you completely hate planning and you want someone to be available when you’re available, then you really don’t want a woman. You want a girl . . .
- Be creative
- Taking a woman to dinner is a safe and foolproof date when you are in the “getting to know you phase.” But take the time to learn what she likes and doesn’t like. If you are unclear, just ask the question.
- Google.com is your greatest resource. Use it for date night ideas, gifts, etc. Some key words to google “Houston unique date ideas,” “Houston romantic dates,” “Unique things to do in Houston.”
- Groupon & Living Social are your next best resources. Local businesses always advertise things to do such as horseback riding, museums, theaters, etc.
- Be Intentional.
- Remember that the more intentional you are, the more effort you put into a woman, the more a woman (a grown woman) will put back into you.
Disclaimer: This post is for Grown Men and Grown Women – Men and Women who are looking to develop relationships, not for those who are looking for FWBs or playing games. Life is too short and too sweet to play games and waste your time. Be great today!
